Perfect isn't normal: Why letting go of “perfect” leads to better, more realistic health

In Los Angeles, people say “perfect” all the time.

I hear it daily—and every time, as a recovering perfectionist, a little part of me goes, “That doesn't sit right with me”.

I’ve learned to aim for “perfect enough" using my energy matched to what really matters in a given situation, instead of using perfect as the only standard. Perfection, to me, often means stress, pressure, and trying to meet someone else’s standards. Perfection is often unnecessary and involves spending energy that could be better used elsewhere toward a more meaningful goal and contentment. 

Humans are rarely—if ever—perfect. And that’s okay. In fact, that makes the world go round! People aren't as likable when they are perfect. They'd be far less interesting and intriguing if they were. 

There’s a Japanese art form called kintsugi that honors imperfection. Broken bowls are repaired with gold, so the cracks become part of the beauty. It’s a reminder that our “not-perfect” parts hold meaning.

And because my work focuses on food and health, it's important to note that it applies here as well. 

“Perfect” is subjective. What one person sees as ideal, another might not. If we only choose food that looks flawless, we’re working against nature—and our health.

Take oranges.

At the store, we have grown to expect them to be the same size, shape, and deep orange color, so we can be assured that we are buying the "best". But color isn’t a reliable sign of sweetness; it’s more about climate and growing conditions. A slightly green orange can be sweeter than a fully orange one. That uniform, glossy look? Often from dye, selective breeding, or artificial conditions—not better taste or nutrition.

Instead of chasing perfect-looking food, choose alive, varied, real food. Real life is messy and varied.

Differences challenge our minds to stay alert and our bodies to grow, learn, and pay attention to what is really important.  

That’s how you build a way of living that fits you and your life and truly serves your health.

Variety—not perfection—is the path to health. It is the true nature of all life.